Being a grown up is busy and exhausting. Getting up super early to go to work, getting off late, then running errands, eating dinner, hanging out with friends, cleaning, etc. etc. will wear you out. And those are light days. The days where you have to do laundry or go to the doctor are even more exhausting.
This last week I was sick and had to go to the doctors and do all sorts of busy things. So Friday was my lazy, stay in night. Awesome awesome awesome!
So here’s my guide to being lazy in the grown up world (because you deserve it sometimes).
Watch something cool. I stayed in and watched the real cool new show Orange is the New Black on Netflix. I would highly recommend it! Watch a movie or a tv show or anything that you’ve been just planning on watching.
Don’t clean. Lazy day does not equal cleaning day. Just sit back and relax. Unless cleaning relaxes you. In that case you are going to be a wonderful spouse.
On a side note, keep your place clean so you can always relax. It takes me an extra two minutes to put away clothes that I decided not to wear. It takes five to do dishes at night. I could wait but if I did it could take well up to an hour and then I’d never get lazy nights.
Find your comfortable spot. Mine’s my bed. Yours can be the couch, floor, bed, or even the dining room table.
Turn email off. Or even go as far to turn your phone off. Being disconnected when you are always connected will make you feel better.
Go to sleep. Lazy days does not mean stay up late. Get to bed at a decent time.
Do your hobby. Mine is slowly becoming blogging. So nights in are perfect for this.
And my last piece of advice…don’t work.
I hope you take a lazy night this week and chill out. You deserve it!
But it’s not. I’m a spendaholic. I got it from my mama…and my dad…and my grandma, and about every other person in my family. I’m not proud but the enormous shoe closet cannot lie (and I can’t even put my body in front of it to cover it all. Thanks JustFab). I didn’t save money in college. I spent it all on pizza and wine. As much fun as I had in college I was not prepared for the real world of spending at all.
So when I went apartment shopping I clearly wanted the more expensive apartment with granite countertops. In my mind it was life or death. But then my dad sat me down and told me “Child here’s an expense sheet. You cannot afford all you want.” So I looked at it and I argued with him and I was seriously wrong. So I got the cheaper but still beautiful apartment that I’m much more grateful for anyways because the closet is huge (hence the need for more shoes!)
I make decent money for a recent college grad and I definitely have some extra spending money but there’s also a lot that needs to be paid…EVERY MONTH. Yes its true, you have to pay bills every month.
So here’s my advice on buckaroos.
Bills come first. No matter what you want or think you need, you won’t have any place to put those things if you don’t pay your rent. I have two checking accounts. I send a certain amount of my paycheck into one so at the end of the month I can pay my bills and have a little money to spare. I really advise you to do this. It helps me to make sure I have enough every month and my savings account is now getting plentiful. Also get Mint to help you better track!
Pay your bills ahead of time. If you have the money and you don’t have a dire emergency pay your smaller bills. I usually pay my cable and parking halfway through the month.
Do you really need it? Cable and internet are not cheap. You’ll need internet because most Americans do but if you don’t watch television a lot or have a Netflix subscription then maybe lose the cable.
Chose what you want. Some people like video games, some like books, I like clothes. Budget your money around what you know will make you happy. You might find yourself spending money on things you don’t really need (see below). Also sometimes saving money for a vacation is a better idea. My man and I are going ziplining over a wildlife safari next Spring. I think I’ll remember that a lot more than the purse I tried to buy the other day.
Don’t spend it all on eating out. This might seem liker common sense but you’ll find yourself eating out at lunch or getting nachos during happy hour. It adds up. Here’s some good brown bag ideas.
I could go on for days…and I will in a later blog post. In the mean time, what’s your best spending habits?
Growing up has its ups and downs and tonight was an up. A few friends from work and school created a book club and had our first meeting tonight! Ahh how exciting.
Its hard making new friends in a new city. I moved here with no one but my stuffed animal and a cell phone full of phone numbers for people far away. Now two months later I have weekday and weekend plans every week.
So here’s my advice on how to at least meet people:
Once you make one friend the rest will come naturally.
Start at work. You are stuck with those people 40 hours a week, might as well like them as well. I started with my orientation/training group. We were the newest hires so we might as well banded together. If your company has a messenger system try messaging at least one new person a day. That’s how I met my two closest Cleveland friends (who are also in my book club).
Next advice is if you know anyone that lives where you do reach out to them. You might not know them too well but they might be all you have for awhile. Dinner, lunch or drinks once a week won’t kill you.
Interrupt people’s conversations. If you’re on the elevator and here someone talking about your favorite band butt in. They might hate you but at least you tried. That’s how I made friends with a guy from work that also happens to live in my building. He was talking about his awesome apartment one day with someone else and I overheard it was where I lived as well. We now are walk home buddies.
Compliment people, smile, be friendly. Its corny but it works.
Ask people to lunch all the time! People love to eat. Don’t be crazy.
Here’s a few pieces of advice once you got them:
Invite them out – to lunch and on the weekends
Form a group – like a book club (Oprah has great advice, follow the link)
Go to all the events – 20 of us are going to the Indians game this weekend
Now I get to tell you about my book club. There’s going to be eight of us but only six could come today. We met at my place for the first meeting. I made amazing mini crescent dogs and a cheese tray. Also all the wine in the world was bought, all of it. We picked a book and gossiped and it was the most fun ever.